Sorry that its ridiculously long.. its a journal of sorts that pertains information i couldnt easily put on my myspace blog.. but at least here anonymity and understanding are a fairly common ideal. if you read it you rock.. if you dont i totally understand :-)
have a great day everyone!
Does anyone know of a binder that works well for those who are large chested and very broad shoulder?
(cross-posted in partners of ftm)
I wanted to briefly introduce myself. My name is Adelisse, I'm from Florida, through currently living in Red Sox country, and I've been with my partner for 3 years. I mostly like to peruse, so I think that's what I'll be sticking to for now.
I was wondering if anyone else had a situation similiar or at least can give me advice. Right about now I would even take a 'everything will turn out alright' reply *sigh*
My partner is FTM and he just had his surgery last Thursday, a week from today. This is his third month on T. Anyways, what I am trying to get at is my partner is my best friend of 18yrs. We met when we were 12y/o. It wasn't until October of 2006 did she(she was out as lesbian and even I didn't know that she had thought about being trans before) confess that she had feelings for me. I of course had never thought that I would have a chance with her before because when she told me that she was lesbian, which I didn't realize that I was truly one until her and I started dating, she had already started dating someone and moved them in shortly after that. Well we started dating and it was intense and we ended up breaking up February of 2007 due to her running away from me. I had always made her be able to be herself. About a month later she came out to me about being trans. Well due to something tramatic that happened to her son in August, that brought us back together. Well during the summer she had gotten close to start to transition then freaked and tried to convince everyone, including herself that she really wasn't trans. Well as you can imagine, we got back together and it was intense again, but we did it right this time, took our time, and by October she broke down and told me that she was honestly, truly transgendered.
Well I love him very much and I am not turned off by him becoming male, physically, but as you all know, a relationship with a man is a lot different then a relationship with a woman. Now, not only am I having to adjust to the male personality, my best friend of 18yrs has changed drastically. Do any of you have a really close friend and/or partner of many years suddenly expressed that they are transgendered. How are you coping with the change? I am excited for my partner, I truly believe that he is my soulmate, but I won't lie and say that I don't miss my best friend of so many years, even though there was a great sadness to her, there were other wonderful things too that aren't there or changed now.
thanks everyone for listening,